What mentally healthy people don't do - Great stuff from Amy Morin

What do mentally healthy people do?

This is from a great article in Forbes Magazine that captures the ideas of a Clinical Social Worker, Amy Morin. My spin is that we are losing these values. We are not helping people embody these habits. Instead we are fostering entitlement-based resentment and people pleasing co-dependency.

These are conservative values.

According to Morin, Mentally strong people do NOT:

Waste time feeling sorry for themselves.
Give away their power.
Shy away from change.
Waste energy on things they can't control.
Worry about pleasing others.
Fear taking calculated risks.
Dwell on the past.
Make the same mistakes over and over.
Resent other people's success.
Give up after failure.
Fear alone time.
Feel the world owes them anything.
Expect immediate results.

Great job Amy Morin!

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Tom Lopez November 27, 2013 at 12:19 PM
I don't think Amy was presenting those as values, as much as habits to maintaining healthy emotions, thoughts, and behaviors. Attaching a moral valuation to mental health is akin saying sick people are sinners and creates a dependency between our core ideology and the behavior of others. Amy seems like she's describing people with strong internal resilience Her original post in life hack really doesn't say anything about judging or assigning blame to others, so much as encouraging the individual to focus on the list of traits you posted. I would think trying to apply these traits to others is a misapplication of giving others power. We don't need other people to share our values if ours are strong enough.
Kevin Kervick November 27, 2013 at 02:01 PM
Hi Tom: I did not mean to say that Amy was calling these things values but that these are things that conservatives value. I would add that they are not necessarily the things that therapists have encouraged, although I agree the resilience and strengths based movements are popular today. Correspondingly, the research suggests that conservatives across the board tend to be happier than liberals. My guess is there might be a positive correlation between this list and (conservative) happiness. Entitlement, envy, immediate gratification, and resentment, are built into Progressive ideology by design.
Tom Lopez November 27, 2013 at 02:32 PM
Well I would agree that a positive correlation is possible, the original study wasn't so much "Conservatives" and "liberals", but rather "Authoritarianism" and "Subjective well being" and concluded that essentially telling people how to live strengthens identity and self satisfaction. The study that news papers have been trying to bat around was "The happy cyclist: Examining the association between generalized authoritarianism and subjective well-being" it doesn't exactly correspond to ethical behavior, a lot of ethical models, such as Christianity have prohibitions against imposing one's beliefs on others. If the definition of mental strength refers to moral fortitude, I don't think there would be a positive correlation, if it refers to a more clinical model of satisfaction, then I agree, I would predict a positive correlation too .
Tom Lopez November 27, 2013 at 03:30 PM
Carol is there ANY way nashua Patch can install a paragraph feature so everything we post doesn't look like a star wars crawl?
Kevin Kervick November 27, 2013 at 05:01 PM
Interesting thoughts Tom.


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